I was a little bit younger than you are when I went no-contact with my family. I have also been disabled since I was 19, and later in life was diagnosed with ADHD and a Cluster C personality disorder (I’m goddam terrified of everything). I very much relate to that feeling of “I should be/wish I was dead by now”.

It’s hard, I won’t lie to you. There have been times I wished I had a family to rely on, but once the wishful thinking wears off, I realize they’d just make whatever I was going through so much harder. Also, my mother has narcissistic tendencies, and my moments of happiness and accomplishment are mine now. That one change was huge for my self-esteem and confidence. Eventually you’ll become your own person and not intrinsically linking everything you do and are to your parents.

I’m in my late 30s now, and I’m going to graduate with a BS very soon. There’s a lot more help for college students in the US than I think many people are aware. You’re disabled so you qualify for TRIO support. I have worked for TRIO in two capacities, and one of the things we do is help people find and apply for scholarships. You also have the option of doing a work-study (at my uni you can be paid $3500/semester). I currently work for upward bound, the TRIO program for high schoolers, and one of the things I do with them is help them find colleges that fit them. I’m more than happy to help you figure out what is a good fit for you and start working on scholarships! I’ve also moved around a lot, so I might be able to point you towards cities that you’d like.

Something very cool is that some US universities have sister universities abroad, so you can take part in an exchange program. My university has a sister uni in Ireland. There are also work study programs abroad in almost every continent (you could spend a paid-for summer in Thailand, for example).

Right now I’m looking to get my doctorate in Europe. It is possible to be disabled and achieve academic success! I had a hard time learning that I can trust people for support, but you’re already far ahead of where I was at your age. You’ve got this!

I think he doesn’t need math tutoring. He needs someone to sit with him while he does his homework, and he needs encouragement. Our education system just marches people through to graduation without giving them the chance to breathe.

But, I agree, our teachers have been struggling for decades.

I tutor high school students in math and science. They’ve all taken a budgeting class. One of my students is taking calculus and I genuinely feel he has a better understanding of it than I do!

I am glad he has the option to take calculus, he’s one that gets bored at the place other students need. But I really don’t think many students need it or can fit it in their graduation tracks.

We also need to consider how difficult algebra was for some, to the point that a lot of adults think they hate math. I like the comment in the op that Applied Calculus skills (real-world story problems) are useful, and I think that would have more impact than two-three semesters of calculus.

There are still a ton of folks who are cash only in the US. Some of it is because cards and digital transactions make it easy to track people (in the US at least). Others can’t open bank accounts for one reason or another, usually because they don’t have an address or appropriate ID. And quite a few only accept cash so they don’t have to report their income, because they are on disability or they owe money to the government.

I’m actually dealing with my last example right now. I want to hire someone, they only want cash but I live 5 hours away from them so it’s causing some difficulty. They don’t even want a check because they are so cautious about their income being tracked that way.

It can! This is one of the possible causes of endometriosis.

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Which distros are you using on laptop? I have a gaming laptop, I’ve been procrastinating on the switch because I dont want to lose some things. I really enjoy the control software for the lights and fans that it came pre-installed with, for example

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I was just making a joke :)

Tylenol does not cause autism. Given how often people with autism experience RSD it is funny to think that an imagined cause of autism could also be a treatment for one of its symptoms

The commenter that you replied to was expressing despair at how difficult their life is because they have AuDHD. They are not saying that Tylenol can turn off their brain, they are instead asking for recommendations to escape their misery.

You could try understanding the comment chain and comments before saying something that sounds cruel like:

“Are you a nice, forgiving person? It works for good people only”.

Many neurodivergent people grow up abused by their parents because of their needs, and struggle with feeling like they are not good, not good enough, and not worthy of love. Saying what you did, unprovoked, to a ND person can send someone into a self-hatred spiral that is wholly unnecessary and has nothing to do with what they actually said.

RSD is not limited to people with autism or ADHD. It’s just very common among neurodivergent folks

Edit: When I made this comment the person above was being unfairly down voted. What they said has scientific merit and the reader can easily verify.

I’m on clonidine for ADHD. I can actually stop myself from speaking out of turn now, so maybe it has been a little sedating xD

Dating is kind of a nightmare. I know people say anyone can find a partner, but that doesn’t take into account things like sensory issues or hard boundaries around other things that keep us sane. I told myself a few years ago that I didn’t want to date while I’m university, but honestly it’s been so nice not forcing myself to fit into other people’s boxes that I might just stay single even after I earn my doctorate

I’m also with you on refusing to participate in a misery machine for a living. I hope you can hash out some kind of misery escape plan with your therapist tomorrow

My physical therapists love to say “motion is lotion”, moving is what keeps our joints moving smoothly

I hear you, I’m ND too. Reading about things like RSD being common in people like us has at least helped me be easier on myself.

Existence is goddamn difficult and I wish I had an answer, because turning my brain off sounds wonderful. Alcohol can do that, but it comes with some awful consequences. I’ve also abused quetiapine, but eventually that fucked me up too. Weed does not play nice with my brain

This is pretty funny given the recent political assertions that Tylenol causes autism, because rejection sensitive dysphoria is a symptom of autism/adhd

Edit: that N.B. is pretentious as fuck. Don’t take an incredibly tiny study with very little scientific traction as fact. Presenting it as fact demonstrates how little the OP understands about research

I have two friends who recently graduated with electrical engineering degrees, and they can’t find work where they live. If you’re able to apply across the country and move, that may give you better results, but they are both now looking for jobs outside of their degree focus. One is actually doing IT for the university he earned his EE BS from, but there’s no opportunity for growth there because it’s an incredibly tiny school and community.

It’s been over a decade since I worked in tech, but experience was king. I’m earning a degree in biology now, because by the time I left Microsoft I knew how easy it would be to automate my job

As a fellow flat-footed human that prefers putting weight on one foot, you might need to get over-protonation insoles. I’ve found they really force me to put weight on both feet and they do protect your ankles as well. I have been happy with PowerStep Maxx in the past, but it’s been a couple years since I purchased new ones.

I’ve also been told by a podiatrist to get Hoka shoes, but that’s outside my price range lol

“forest spirit in autumn” I wrapped some silk flowers and leaves onto a headband with suede cord, glued pieces of the remainder to my face and body, and wore flowy clothes that I already own.

Cost: $5.88

He put his hand on my lower back after puberty, where before he’d just hold my hand. I should probably have clarified that. My dad was not an affectionate man.

This was also in the early 00s when purity balls were common, so having attended one of those I definitely feel like his hand placement was possesive