My wife and I were living together for more than a decade before we got married. Our primary reasons for getting married were tax benefits and reducing legal complications if one of is in the is hospitalized or dies. Our wedding was followed at the court house followed by a very fancy lunch with 2 friends that acted as our witness’s.

Getting married has made no real difference in our relationship, besides now we split a joint tax return.

I think you are confusing effort/reward with the issue of autonomy. You may personally find the less “rewarding” thing more enjoyable because you were empowered to make the choice.

Freedom of speech is a tool for society. All tools can be used for nefarious purposes.