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Cake day: December 22nd, 2023
  • Zeon@lemmy.worldOPtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[deleted]
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    7 days ago

    I will be better next time, I understand how fucked up that was. It was just the stress of everything, she knew my job was thinking about firing me at a couple points, and she still decides it’s okay to stress me out, especially to that level. It was just the stress of it all that was killing me. I couldn’t get her to come out after that, hang ups, flaking on dates, etc. (before I called) and she was starting to really scare me. I just completely lost my mind.

  • Zeon@lemmy.worldOPtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[deleted]
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    7 days ago

    She said she was from another country and she moved here years ago, that is why I asked. I understand, it’s completely fucked up, I was super stressed out at the time. I never would’ve involved ICE. If you look at my previous comment, I explained that I wanted to know if she had it just so I can say in case she tried taking me to court I’d tell her to take a DNA test (still fucked up, but this is where my mind was at the time).

    I was very sorry after it, and her and I were cool for a bit until I just broke things off myself, for my self-respect and for hers. I also wanted to break up because I was scared about the baby thing and wanted to wait it out to see if she was actually pregnant or not (she kept holding me up for 2 months straight). It was my only way of knowing, I don’t have social media, and I didn’t have hers.

    I’ve talked to two other coworkers here about the whole situation (both Latino) and they agree that she was a nutcase. They did not blame me for the way I reacted. (Still, not okay of course)

  • Zeon@lemmy.worldOPtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[deleted]
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    8 days ago

    If I didn’t love myself, I would’ve stayed in this relationship. She was not my source of happiness. I learned to let go of her, even if that meant losing my first potential girlfriend.

    I believe I am ready for a real relationship, just not with her. It was complete mental torture.

  • Zeon@lemmy.worldOPtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[deleted]
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    8 days ago

    Totally understand. I just felt like I couldn’t trust her even if she said no or yes, and I don’t believe she would’ve taken a pregancy test. She also kept holding me up on dates for about 4 weeks after what she said, then I told her I wanted to break up. She still was trying to get back with me but I was intentionally screwing things up to get her to leave. I was really scared of her after that moment, which is why I tried to seek external help from that coworker. My mind was looking for an escape at that time because I was thinking about suicide. It’s a very terrible situation and I hope you can understand where I was at the time. (Still not okay, but I just couldn’t handle the stress)

  • Zeon@lemmy.worldOPtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[deleted]
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    8 days ago

    I was never planning on calling ICE. I was asking because if she were to take me to court, I would tell her to take a DNA test (My friend told me she needs to have citizenship for that or else she can’t collect). I’m sorry if this is a short response, I’m currently at work with limited time to respond. I kmow It’s fucked up, I know, but I would never do that to her ever. Not at all my intention. I was really in love with her at first before she made that joke. I wrote her a 3 page letter, played guitar anf sang for her, etc. which had a part in her wanting to “stay” with me I believe. It was also my first time going all the way, so when she said that, I literally freaked out inside and didn’t know what to do. This is also my first date ever.

    EDIT: Just got out of work, I read the rest of your comment. Thank you for the support because it really did mess me up badly, I should probably go see a therapist. I was in complete stress for 3 months until that other coworker told me that he saw her down the street (she lives by work) and said she’s not pregnant. This is from a coworker I trust.