As a man, men think women care about looks more than they do.

Looks are much bigger for men than for women.

Obviously a massive generalisation, but in general. Like “men are physically stronger than women”. Not all men are stronger than women but…

Anyway.

Looks really don’t matter that much. I’d say women pay more attention to personality with the same difference as there is between how much men value looks vs how women value looks.

Also, if I was being very crude, I’d say “status” is the “looks” for women. That’s what you get very beautiful women with older rich men more than you do young hot men with old riches women.

But I’d like not to be crude so disregard that last bit.

I’ve been telling people Finland isn’t the fucking perfect place people think it is.

We’re honestly alarmingly authoritarian and most finns have issues questioning authority.

Just ask kusimulkku@lemm.ee

You know a nation of people who may not be able to articulate their understanding, but definitely have a high intuitive understanding of that?

We Finns.

100C sauna and no problem sitting on wood, but happen to touch something metal and oooh-weee.

Also same thing happens the others way around when it’s - 20c outside. I don’t think there’s many people in Finland who don’t have a core memory of what cold metal tastes like in winter, because of the resulting trauma. And it doesn’t even need to be metal to stick.

Nicely explained.