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      We don’t hate them, it’s just that capitalism has found them to be an easy and vulnerable target for manipulation.

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      It’s mot that we hate teenage girls (and women) so much. It’s just money. Soulless, apathetic money making.

      A teenager is in a vulnerable state. Some more than others. But self esteem, self worth, and existentialism are things that a teenager as, at the very least, a brush with.

      An emotionally vulnerable person is more open to suggestion. Religion does this a lot. Advertising is no different.

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          For anyone that is downvoting this. Go ahead and try to run a business without advertising, let me know how that works out for you.

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          This is one of those bizarre Lemmy echo chamber things. I’ve never seen this sentiment that advertising is evil and should be stopped at all costs anywhere else but on Lemmy it’s super common. Idk where it comes from. I get that advertising kind of sucks but it just seems like a weird thing to get so passionate about especially considering how many other things are wrong with the world. Sorry you’re getting downvoted to hell, you’re not crazy, Lemmy is.

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            This has been a huge public viewpoint for decades. I think it was Banksy who had the quote about if you force me to view your ad by putting it in a public space then it is mine to do with a I please.

            Businesses have to survive, but advertising is insidious and invasive. Could it be regulated? Sure.

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            I know one example of advertising that I liked: the creators of Penny Arcade had only advertisements for computer games that they liked. And they made those ads in the same art style as their own comic.

            Advertisements are good when they’re an honest endorsement. Any others are inherently deceptive and often invasive.

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            Some level of advertising is a necessary evil when you’re in a capitalist system because otherwise people have no way to get their products out ti the market. There’s a balance to be struck.

            Hell even in other systems advertising is still important for finding out about cool new things even if money no longer exists

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          They can put up signs inside their business windows. That’s plenty. Everything is a blight.

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    can’t believe a social network started by incels in college to rate girls sexually would do something like this.

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    lol, Jesus. It is like what a screen writer would come up with for a movie that contained a terrible company run by terrible people doing stuff so outlandishly terrible everyone watching would think “the absurdity of the terrible is how you know it is made up”.

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    That’s 0% surprising. FB had always been about making girls feel bad. It’s in its sorce code

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      Facebook started as a Hot or Not website. Fucking creepy.

      YouTube also started because the founders wanted to see the Janet Jackson nipple slip. (Which fuck them for that.)

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        Ya FB is,was and will forever be bad for society and woman especially

        I mean,do you really think janet jackson didn’t want people to see?

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          I mean,do you really think janet jackson didn’t want people to see?

          No, I don’t.

          It’s interesting how Justin Timberlake had a career after that incident; when was the last time anyone’s heard from Janet Jackson?

          I don’t see how this is different from revenge porn.

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        Ya FB is,was and will forever be bad for society and woman especially

        I mean,do you really think jackson didn’t want people to see

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    Centralized social media is an advertisement platform that targets advertisements according to information & conduct users feed the platform, and some of those users are teenagers?

    They’re advertising cosmetics to teenagers unlike ever before in the history of teen-centric media?

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    The book is very good. Reading it now. The writer starts off with a great story about a shark attack.

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    At some point we need to start criminalizing shit like this and actually holding people accountable.

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        Thus far, they’d basically be right. Any fines are simply chocked up to “cost of doing business” expenses and since no one wants to either make solid laws against this stuff OR hold them accountable for current ones, they’ll just keep at it.

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            That depends on if it is a dayfine or not.

            A fine of €500 for speeding will only really affect poor people, 30 dayfines which value is dictated by the wealth of the individual is a better system.

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      It’s so much bigger than this. It starts young. iPad kids. Strict gender roles. Sexualization of children. Learning from parents who have been conditioned by capitalism, sexism and more. We got little girls that want skincare products and teens talking about plastic surgery. It’s bad.

      Agreed though. Punish people for ruining society. I think I read a while ago that France had required social media posts to flag when images have been altered. We need more laws like this too.

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        As little kids we got like no genderbased education from our parents. When we moved our grandmother got a lot more control and dumped blue boyish stuff on my brother and forbid the girly things. Has never worn a dress since and now is still not willing to wear one

        (it could be that us older sisters influenced that he wants to wear dresses too)

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          Bummer. Happens to almost all men in the US. Maybe less now, but this new red pill generation is wild.

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          I need context to understand your story. How old was your brother when you moved? How often was he wearing dresses before the move? How quickly did it stop? And how old is he now?

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            • he was ~4 years old
            • i actually dont know how often, but i would guess as often as we others too. from what i understood he actually liked it so often enough
            • a few weeks or months (was 5 at the time so its mostly something i heard from older siblings & mother)
            • 21 i think
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        And mass sharing of images/videos which has made it so much easier to connect people, specifically in one case I saw today of someone on Telegram sharing child porn. How do you even put the cat back in the box?

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            That does make sense, although I’m not sure we can trust it to work like that.

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            Unfortunately, the “used intelligently and responsibly” part is why people dislike AI - they don’t trust companies or people to use it that way (and for good reason based on the results so far).

            Plus, it’s not gonna put everything back into Pandora’s Box. What we’re in is a societal and cultural arms race where AI is just another escalation that’s being used by both sides.

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              It’s funny you reference Pandora’s Box. I often use it to refer to the growth of AI and people’s resistance towards it. It’s not going anywhere. It’s not slowing down. We gotta make it work for us.

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          It has always been this way. When you get old, 15 year olds and 19 year olds start to all look the same.

          Similarly, to teenagers a 40 year old and a 60 year old look the same. Old.

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          It’s hard to say if it’s one of those things that older gens say is different with newer gens even though it the same. I will say though, the convergence of sexualization of children and infantilization of adults have been narrowing the gap and maybe one is winning over the other.

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      Oh you mean fines? Sure here’s some money $$.
      Meanwhile AD rev is $$$$$. Just the cost of doing business!
      Hahahaa

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      I wish I could ban old people from it as well because when their mental processing ability declines, so does their ability to detect bullshit news from bots

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      Not just teenagers. Facebook and quite a few others should outright be banned. Not only they are scientifically proven to be a mental health catastrophe and a political threat to democracy, it’s also pretty clear now that both these things are part of their design, not bugs or unintended emerging properties.

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        Facebook actively contributed to the genocide in Myanmar, and did basically nothing about it because they didnt want to hire more moderators that spoke the language, so that they could adequately remove pro-genocidal content

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      Ok, but the genie is already out of the bottle. Arguing like this is kinda pointless.

      I don’t think it will be possible to get them off social media (or the internet in general), so you need to find ways to make it work.

      E.g. minors can not be advertised to, no algorithmic content, no doom-scrolling, and heightened data protection. I think teenager should get access to as much as possible to reduce the “risk” of them trying to go around it. “Their” version of social media might even be the superior one in the end.

      If the world wasn’t on fire at the moment, people could calmly discuss possible solutions and propose laws in every country to actually protect their children from e.g. the stuff mentioned in the linked article. Sadly, this isn’t going to happen …

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        Ya!

        Important to keep a semi-reasonable option in the major app stores, unless we want Social-Media-Tor dot Mirror or something to become the new hotness

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        The thing is that social media have an oversized influence that makes a calm discussion of possible solutions very hard to have. When the US recognized the implications of letting a foreign power exert so much control over their people, they tried banning TikTok, or breaking it up so their US operation would be under US control.

        Facebook should also be split and its EU operation purchased by a European company, that could then spend more time implementing the other changes you mention (doom-scrolling, data protection) and less time lobbying to get all these pesky EU regulations removed.

        And yes, it does feel heartbreaking to count the US as a threat to national security, but China has never threatened to annex Greenland with military force, so what would have been paranoia and extreme anti-americanism last year is now the sensible, level-headed thing to do.

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        How isn’t it possible? Just don’t give them phones, it’s not that complicated

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          Ok, when was the last time you saw a working payphone? 2010? It isn’t safe for teens to not have a phone because payphones don’t exist any more.

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          You can walk into any Walmart in America and buy a cheap smartphone for $30.

          This approach is even less effective than “just don’t give them drugs”.

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            Ok, but you also need a data plan to go along w/ it (or regular visits to top up; is that still a thing?), plus hide it from parents, or you’re going to have a bad time.

            Drugs are a different story. You can often get drugs from friends (free to start), can buy them a little at a time, and you don’t need to stash any at home. For a phone to be useful, it needs to be readily accessible, which means you’ll have it with you everywhere.

            It’s possible, but it’s going to take a fair amount of work to hide a phone from a parent who’s paying even a little bit of attention.

            The real problem here is parents. Parents need to step up and do a better job. Source: am a parent.

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              You don’t need a data plan if you can access wifi. There is public wifi and I don’t think most parents even know how to check the devices using their home wifi.

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                It’s not hard, and parents can easily change the WiFi password if they don’t know how to check the leases if they suspect something is up.

                I’m very much in the camp of no filters and building a relationship on trust, but occasionally verifying if that trust is misplaced.

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                  I’m a GenX that works with IT. I can tell you that none of my coworkers that are the same generation would know how to do any of that.

                  I agree that parents should be more involved with their children, but when do we hold a company responsible for the harm it causes?

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              Prohibition never works; people will always find other bad — maybe even worse — things to do. The human pressure to have social interactions may lead to creating terrible IRL friendships, ones that can be much more dangerous.

              Instead, I would strongly advise for honest, mature conversations about the risks that social media comes along with. This can lead to a highly positive impact, especially if you teach how to observe interactions between people through social media, even if not interacting, yourself.

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                Prohibition works… temporarily. If you believe your child is not ready for SM, then prohibiting them from it until they are can work.

                So yes, have a mature conversation with your kids, set boundaries, etc. That’s something that should happen between a parent and a child, not between a government and a child.

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                  I actually agree with you, especially in the last sentence. Knowing the Cambridge Analytica Scandal, governments are definitely willing to manipulate children through control of information.

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              Look, maybe it’s true that parents should be doing a better job here. The thing is, that’s an individual solution. This is a systemic problem. How kids (and adults) interact socially and consume media is fundamentally changed over the last thirty years and we’re going to have to find ways to adapt to that as a society.

              Yeah, in any particular individual case you can probably come up with a list of things the parent could have done differently. The reality is that this is a problem for tens (hundreds?) of millions of parents.

              You can hand wave away any problem that affects children with “parents should do a better job”. It didn’t work for obesity, it didn’t work for child traffic deaths, it didn’t work for fentanyl overdoses, it didn’t work for school shootings, it didn’t work for measles, and it’s not going to work for this either.

              I’m just going to copy/paste what I wrote in a previous comment in a similar thread:

              Everybody is so quick to blame the parents in these situations. Maybe there is some truth to that, but people also need to reckon with the fact that kids (and adults) are being constantly inundated by Skinner box apps, and “platforms” full of engagement bait designed to be as addictive and attractive as possible. All run by corporations with functionally no regard for the safety of their users.

              Yeah, sure, if you’re giving advice to an individual parent, they should probably be keeping a closer eye on what their kids are doing.

              But there are systemic problems here that can’t be fixed with individual action. By laying the blame solely at the feet of the parents here, you are in effect putting individual parents up against dozens of huge corporations, each with armies of expert advertisers, designers, and psychologists working to build these products. It’s hardly a fair fight.

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      They shouldn’t, but also PSA to any parents but modern parenting advice typically is to let your kids use social media if they choose, and guide them through the social and emotional difficulties with good communication. Don’t blanket ban it because they’ll just use it anyways without guidance, and be unprepared the moment they turn 18.

      It’s a case of: 99.9% of kids are smoking cigarettes so yours will too. Better to show them how to use a weekly cigar without inhaling, than just ban it which won’t work.

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        That’s a fallacy. Teenagers are the victims here. So I’m obviously blaming greedy corporations, lack of good parenting and proper regulation from authorities.

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        So teens should be allowed to go anywhere adults make it dangerous because it’s the adults’ faults? I hope you don’t have kids.

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      I hearby petition an amendment for an expansion of the child protective laws to widen the definition of abuse, neglect, and reckless abandonment of children to include:

      “letting children browse without ad blockers”