• merc@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    I would guess that most women wouldn’t feel the need to be on a woman-focused Lemmy instance for their main / only account. But, some might want an alt account to discuss certain things there.

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      3 days ago

      While this won’t be the case with everyone, it was mentioned a few times in a post I made here a long while back

      https://lemmy.ca/post/9443464

      I’m a woman, and make no attempt to hide that fact in my posts. That said, I also don’t personally have much interest in talking about being a woman, so don’t sub to any of those places you linked.

      Over on Reddit I just sort of let people assume I was male a lot of the time, since it wasn’t really relevant to what we were talking about. But from the start on Lemmy I’ve made sure to call out incorrect assumptions, downvote and give a talking to people stereotyping or being misogynistic, etc etc. And the more of us (of all genders) that make that same decision, the better things get

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        2 days ago

        That’s pretty brave of you. It’s a lot of work to fight people’s assumptions, and I’m sure it results in harassment.

        But, you’re right that things will never change if women don’t do that. It’s a chicken and egg thing. Nobody wants to be the first to do it, because whoever’s first gets harassed the most. But, if enough people do it, it won’t be abnormal anymore.

        Good luck, and thanks for trying to make women on the internet more normal.