Parents you can tell anything to and be heard without judgement, or a list of all your failings in life.
Parents you’re not afraid to tell that you tried for something, just in case you fail and it will be used against you for the rest of your life?
Just to clarify, I love my parents and know they love me back, but 10 minutes is literally the limit of co-existence
Not anymore. I dunno exactly when it happened but after I left for uni I no longer see eye to eye with my folks.
They raised me and I feel they did a good job: respect others, be kind, help people, everyone is equal. All the good stuff.
Nowadays though my dad has gone hard into conspiracy theories proper tinfoil hat stuff, moon landings fake, vaccines cause autism and have microchips, fluorinated water causes something, COVID was a Chinese plot or fake or just flu (despite half his kids working in healthcare and telling him first hand experiences). He’s gone proper racist Britain for the British bullshit, hates immigrants and anyone not white. He’s dragging my mum into it as well but she’s not exactly innocent in her views either. I’m glad they live at the other end of the country now so I can choose how much I see them, holidays used to involve staying with my parents but now we camp kinda close and just have a meal out together a couple times.
I struggled a lot with coming to terms with the huge change, our relationship used to be fantastic especially with my mum, could talk for hours about anything. Now we have a very very narrow range of safe topics and I have to say no I’m not talking about that with you quite regularly.
I even debated cutting contact because of some of the horrible stuff my dad was posting online, fortunately he’s stopped that and now just consumes the hate instead of tagging me in it. I decided that I wanted to keep my parents in my life but set some firm boundaries and just don’t engage with any of the delusions.
I blame facebook for a lot of that. I see it as a symptom of that website, rather than a symptom of my parents true underlying beliefs.
Sure, everyone has some racist/conspiracy bullshit that they shamefully believe to some degree, but facebook heavily normalised it and echoed it to make them believe that it was okay to believe these things.
Oh definitely it’s terrifying how good the algorithm is at sucking people in and dumping them in an echo chamber where only those awful views are normalised.